Communication & Relationship
I often get asked for tools to help couples communicate the hard stuff, or just the stuff they disagree on or misunderstand. After all...
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Valda
- Jul 31, 2020
- 1 min
Our self talk, are we kind to ourselves?
Kindness is a big thing at the moment, at least in New Zealand we have been encouraged to be kind to each other, maybe even to the...
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Valda
- Jun 20, 2020
- 1 min
Tears - Windows to the Soul.
Tears, Our natural inclination When we see them in another, To bring comfort, To give a hug and wipe away the sorrow. Reminiscent of our...
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Valda
- Jun 5, 2020
- 2 min
Grief ~ navigating changed relationships after lockdown.
This year has been a journey of change for many of us. Each new level of freedom redefining how we can live our lives, with some changes...
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Valda
- May 29, 2020
- 2 min
Gratitude, an antidote to undercurrents of uncertainty.
Uncertainty is somehow contagious. Its apparent agenda something like dominating our thinking and locking us into its story of doom and...
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Valda
- May 22, 2020
- 1 min
Breathe
I love the saying ... "It's ok if the only thing you did today was breathe". I think I first found it as a Toby Mac post. It covers...
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Valda
- May 18, 2020
- 2 min
Celebrating Level 2 ~ Heart Story Counselling's Covid-19 policy
Here at Heart Story Counselling, the advantages of being small and working from home means that there are no waiting rooms, or extra...
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Valda
- May 18, 2020
- 2 min
Hammering in the Nails~Keeping in touch with our values as we return to normal.
Over the weekend I got to embrace some of what's been missing in my life over the last few weeks, a trip to see my out of town family,...
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Valda
- May 8, 2020
- 2 min
Views through a Window
This month I've been reading up on journaling in therapy, and the ways in which written words can both contain our experiences and yet...
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Valda
- May 3, 2020
- 1 min
Holding Hope
Sometimes my job is simply To hold hope To anchor the sense That there is always An alternative story A story of hope Yet to hold hope...
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Valda
- May 2, 2020
- 3 min
Where has the tiredness come from?
I've been noticing those days, especially the grey overcast ones, where irrespective of how much sleep I've had I still feel tired and...
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Valda
- May 1, 2020
- 2 min
Acceptance & Faith
Counselling, Christianity, and respecting the other.
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Valda
- Apr 24, 2020
- 1 min
A Cup of Hot Chocolate
Simple Grounding Practices for Everyday Relaxation. The last few weeks have had me thinking about grounding practices, the various ways ...
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Valda
- Apr 24, 2020
- 2 min
Online vs In-person
Navigating the levels of alert as a counsellor, is very much a case of considering the options, and the risks of counselling venue and...
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Valda
- Apr 20, 2020
- 1 min
Kindness in Overload
Sometimes, like now, it can seem like there are simply too many ideas out there competing for our energy and attention. Remember to...
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Valda
- Apr 18, 2020
- 3 min
Stories of Resilience as Signposts in Uncertainty.
Narrative Therapy reminds me that one of the most powerful ways to support yourself in uncertainty is to re-ground yourself in...
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Valda
- Apr 15, 2020
- 2 min
Why Heart Story?
Choosing a name is never easy, a name captures what is important, what you value, it defines you. Settling on Heart Story was a journey...
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Valda
- Mar 4, 2020
- 1 min
Rescued Speech Therapy Poems
Narrative Therapy has a beautiful way of saving our clients words from a counselling session, as jotted down while we are talking and...
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Valda
- Mar 4, 2020
- 1 min
Imagine...
Imagine the difference if people were known not by the actions they take ... But by their hopes and dreams for those actions And for the...
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